RIGHTS OF PARENTS
Aala Hazrat Imam Ahmed Raza (RadiyallahuAnhu)
AL-HUQOOQUE THE RIGHTS OF PARENTS
RIDDLE NO.: 1.
A son snatched away whole property disobeying his father and left nothing
behind as his father's own
maintenance. Not only this, but he is insulting and infaming him. While the
obedience of father is strictly ordered in the
holy Quran sharif by Allahta`la, The Almighty. In this situation, whether he
infringed the order of Allah ta'la and
he is a disbeliever of Allah ta'la order or not. And what is the order of
shariet (The Islamic laws) for those who breach
or deny the orders of the holy Quran? And what type of offender he is?
The aforesaid son is involved in "Fasique","Fajir"
and "Kabira" sins and is liable to suffer an horrible anger
of Allah ta'la, The Great. The disobedience of father is the disobedience of
Allah ta'la and the displeasure of father is
the displeasure of Allah ta'la. If a man pleases his parents, then they are his
paradise (Jannat) and if displeases them,
they are his hell (Jahannam) too. Unless he pleases his father, none of his
Farzs, Niffals or any Righteous acts will
be granted by Allah ta'la -at all. Except the calamities of the next world, the
severe sufferings of this world will be
imposed upon him during his actual life and there is a danger that he may not
be lucky enough to recite the holy
Kalema" during his final moments (Allah may save us all).
Through Hadith, the most beloved Prophet Mohammed (Sallallaho Alaihe Wasallam)
The obedience of Allah ta'la rests in the obedience of father and the
disobedience of Allah ta'la is the
disobedience of father." [Tibrani]
Through another Hadith, it is indicated by Prophet Mohammed (Sallallaho Alaihe
"The pleasure of Allah ta'la is in the pleasure of parents and the
displeasure of Allah ta'la is of course in the
displeasure of parents." [Tirmizi, Ibne Habban, Hakim]
And in third Hadith it is said that:
"The parents are your paradise and hell." [Ibne Maaja]
Through fourth Hadith, the Prophet (Sallallaho Alaihe Wasallam) divulges a
A father is the middle gate of all the gates of paradise. Now, if you like, you
may disgain it or take care
of it." [Tirmizi, Ibne Maaja, Ibne Habban]
In the fifth Hadith, it is said by hira that:
"Three persons will not enter the paradise (i) One who disobeys parents
(ii) "Dayyush" (i.e. A person who
does not attempt thoroughly to prevent his wife from unveiling / moving without
purdah is called "Dayyush ")
and (iii) A female who behaves like a male (i .e . A female with male like
gestures). [Nisai, Hakim]
The Prophet Mohammed (Sallallaho Alaihe Wasallam) guides us through sixth
No Farzs and Niffals of three persons will be granted by
Allah ta'la, The Almighty,
(i) Who shows obligation after offering" Sadqa "to
someone in trouble.
(ii) And who disbelieves virtues (good deeds) and vices
(bad deeds) are from Allah (Taqdeer)
(iii) Who is a disobedient of parents (Sunan Ibne Abi
And the Prophet (Sallallaho Alaihe Wasallam) warns us in the seventh Hadith
The punishment of all other sins may be left for the day of Qayamat (the final
day) if He (Allah ta'la) wishes,
but He (Allah ta'la,
The Great) does punish those who are the disobedients of their parents in this
[Hakim, Isbahani, Tibrani]
The eighth Hadith illuminates that:
"A young man was on the stage of Sakraat ( i.e, final moments of the life)
who was being taught "Kalema
sharif "But he was unable to recite the holy words of the `Kalema sharif
"till the moments that the Prophet
(Sallallaho Alaihe Wasallam) reached there and told him to recite Lailaha
Illallah .But he expressed his inability to
recite it. Later on it came to notice that his mother was displeased with him.
Afterwards when she had been
pleased, that young could recite the "Kalema sharif ". [Imam Ahmed,
Now, with reference to the riddle mentioned above the son is an offender and
his deeds (executions) are in
against of the great orders of Allah ta'la, The Great. He can not be said or
called as a disbeliever of the orders of Allah
ta'la until he says that the obedience of a father is not essential according
to Shariet or (may Allah save us) an
disreputation of a father is JAEZ (allowable by Islam). Any one who distinctly
keeps such type of
Aqida (belief) is no doubt a Munkar (disbeliever) of the great orders of Allah
ta'la and here the order of apparent
KUFRA" (Infidelity) is applicable to him.
RIDDLE NO: 2
Q: Whose right exceeds (becomes meater) upon off-spring
either of a father or of a mother?
A: The right of a father upon off spring is too much and the
right of a mother is indeed greater than that of a father
Allah ta'la Orders that:
Meaning: And we emphasize (put stress upon) gentle behavior with parents as she
(The mother) guarded
him in stomach with pains, gave him birth painfully and his stay in a stomach
as well as the generation of chest milk are
all within thirty months.
Through this holy verses, of the Quran, Allah ta'la has clearly stressed upon
the rights of a father and mother
and immediately after that pointed out individually to mother's pains and
troubles which she sustains in her
stomach and at the time of his birth as well as He (Allah ta'la) draws our
attention to great dedication of her essence
of blood (i.e. chest milk) for two years. Therefore, her right is promoted over
father in all senses.
And similar is the abstract of another Quranic verse.
Meaning: And we stressed him for the rights of parents whom a mother
beared in her stomach, tolerated
willingly pains over pains and the generation of chest milk are within two
years. Thank me and your parents.
Here, no limitations are put for the rights of parents since Allah ta'la, The
Almighty, compares them with His
own rights and commands to thank Him and parents forever.
Allahu Akbar...! Both these great and pious Quranic verses and many other
testimonies are there supporting and
proving the right of a mother greater than father in all ways Here, Ummul
Momineen Ayisha Siddiqa states that:
(In the holy service of our Aaqa (The master) Mohammad (Sallallaho Alaihe
I asked; [0...! Prophet Sallallaho Alaihe Wasallam, "Who enjoys the
greatest right upon a female?"
He (The Prophet) replied;
"Her husband" I again asked; "Who bears the greatest right upon
He replied; "His mother". [Bazzaz Hakim)
Abu Hurairah cites that:
In the holy service of Prophet Mohammad (Sallallaho Alaihe Wasallam), someone
"0...! Great Prophet of Allah ta'la, Who is the most rightful with whom I
behave Kindly? He replied; "Your mother" He again asked and Prophet
"Your mother" He again asked, and again Prophet ordered,
"Your father." In the third Hadith, it is the decree of the Prophet
(Sallallaho Alaihe Wasallam) that:
I make a will to man in favor of his mother, I make a will in favor of his
mother, I make a will in favor of his
mother, I make a will in favor of his father. [Masnad-e-Imam Ahmed Ibne Hakim
But the moral of this excess stress is meant to offer superiority to mother
over father in the matters concerning
their service or nursing or giving something .e.g. Hundred rupees are there and
there is no reason to give more to
mother even though give twenty five rupees to father and rest all seventy five
to mother or suppose, both father and
mother ask for the glass of a water simultaneously, then serve the mother first
and father should be given the glass
of a water afterwards. And if they have returned from journey, then priority in
pressing their feet should be given
to mother. If there is some dispute between them and in unbecoming favor of
mother, do not afflict the feelings of
your father (Allah may ward off us from such wickedness). Neither practice any
severity nor reply unreasonably and
also do not talk rudely facing the sight of a father. All these acts are
declared as the disobedience of Allah ta'la, The
Omnimaster, and there is no obedience of a mother or a father.
The moral is that
favor to any of them in such sensess is never shown JAEZ (permissible by
Islamic Laws). Both of them are his
paradise (Jannat) and
hell (Jahannam).e.g. If mother wishes that person should harrass
or give pain or sadden his father, but her son does not obey which causes his
mother displeased. Then let her be
unhappy. But do not submit to mother's intentions or desires and so are the
displeasures of a father liable to
unheed in a matter of mother since it is the obvious highhandedness which leads
to disobedience of Allah ta'la.
Notwithstanding our Ulema-e-Kiram (Religious heads) have shared that a mother
enjoys superiority in the matters
of nursing and attendance while the father bears greater rights so far as the
matter of respect is concerned. It is so
because the father is also a master (lord) of mother. In the kitab "Alamgiri"
it is narrated that:
When the matter of giving priority becomes difficult to a man e.g. It he
selects anyone of them(father or
mother), then the other (second one who is unselected) is hurt, in such
situation, so far as the respect and reputation
concern, choose father first and if it concerns with the matter of service or
nursing, then choose mother first. It is
stated by Allama Khayyati that his Imam has shown father enjoying superiority
in respect and mother in attendance
upto the extent that if both of them in the house came to him, he ought to
stand up in respect/honor of father and if
both of them desire for a glass of water from him and yet none of them seize
it, then he ought to offer it first to
mother and similar is the decree in the Kitab "Kafiya".
RIDDLE NO.: 3
May Allah shower His mercy upon you:- What is your solution in this riddle
What are those rights of parents lasting upon children even after death?
[Illuminate under the light of
Kitab and earn reward from Allah ta'la, The omniscient.]
(1) The very first right after their death relates to the final rites such as
final bath, giving of shroud, their Namaz-e-
Janajhah and burial. Here, all Sunnats and Mustahab things must be heeded in
carrying out these rites hence the dead
body (deceased) looks forward to all benefits, mercy of Allah ta'la and growth
in Sawab (Divine reward).
(2) Always do Istigfar" and pray for them. Never be ignorant, idle or
indifferent towards these things.
(3) Send them Sawab (holy reward from Allah ta'la) by giving Sadqa, Khairat
(Charity) and righteous deeds as per
your ability and never minimize them. Recite Salat for them along with your
Salats. Do fasting for them with your own.
Not only this, but the Sawab (Divine reward) of all noble and righteous acts
must be dedicated to them and all
Muslims. All of them will earn Sawab of these things and not a little part of
your own Sawab (Divine reward) from
Allah ta'la will be lessened to your own part but good deal of growth is
promised to you by Allah ta'la, The most
(4). If they were in debt of anyone, try to settle it out as early as you can
and the settlement of it should be realized
as an eternal advantage of both the worlds. If he is not capable enough to do
so, then he may have from other
relatives and gentlemen for the settlement of their debts.
(5). If they could not go to Hajj, then he should go to Hajjj-e-Badal (i.e.
Hajj being done for others who could not do it
due to physical weakness or death), settle out their Zakat and User if not paid
by them, distribute "Kaffara" (i.e.
Distribution of money amongst the rightful have nots for the compulsory acts of
the shariet like Salat which are not
attended) if their Salats are unattended, do out best for the exemption from
the responsibilities like "WA A'LA
(6).Try out best to fulfill their fair will even though he finds it not needful
as per the order of the Shariet e.g. If they
have made a will of half of the property to the name of some relative who is
not a legal heir or to the name of some
absolutely unknown person, then Shariet does not order to abide to it more than
one third part of the property after the
proper consent of other heirs. But on the parts of the children (offspring) it
is required to submit to their will and
regard their willingness superior to their own interests.
(7) To prove their oath true and unmoved as ever before even after their death
e.g. An oath is taken by his father or
mother that his/her son would not meet that woman or he would never behave that
way. All these should not be
understood as they are no more, so they should not be heeded to or their oath
should not be remembered in their
absence. Thus it must be clung to in the same fashion as it had been clung in
the past during their lives provided that it
must not be banned by the holy Shariet. And submit to their wishes in all types
of "JAEZ" (Allowed by Shariet) matters
even after their death.
(8) He should visit their graves every Friday and recite the holy Quran-Majid
in such a loud voice so that they may
hear it and confer the Sawab of it to their souls and whenever he sees their
graves coming in his way when,
passing by, he must recite Fatiha and dedicate the Sawab of precious Darud
sharif to them.
(9) Always deal very humbly with their relatives through out life.
(10) Maintain friendly dealings with their friends and do respect them ever.
(11) Never speak evil or backbite others' parents as they are likely to speak
evil and abuse our own parents in return.
(12) Never afflict or pain them in their graves by doing sinful action. This is
the greatest and most public right of
them, they bear forever. For the cause that the parents are a informed about
all the good and bad executions of their
children in their graves. At that time virtuous acts of their children delight
them and their faces start shinning while
vicious executions do offend them deeply and their hearts suffer restlessness
and pains. So, to distress them even after
their deaths and to sadden them into their graves is not a right of parents.
Through the matchless intercession of his most beloved Habib Raufur Rahim (may
thousands of Darud and
Salam be upon him), Allah, Gafur-ur-Rahim, Azizokarim, Jalle-Jalalahu may lead
us on Sirat-e-Mustaqim (The right
path), keep us far away from sinful works and He (The most merciful) may
illuminate the graves of our elders and
keep them all in rest there as He, The Almighty does bless and He is our Master
and we are His dependants.
In the auspicious service of the Prophet Mohammed (Sallallaho Alaihe Wasallam),
once an Ansari urged; 0..! Prophet...!
tradition (way) rest there to do kindness with parents after their death which
I may implement..?
"He (Nabi Sallallaho Alaihe Wasallam) sermonized that: "Yes ...! It
does. There are four issues. Recite Salats to
confer them, beg their rescue in the world here-after, fulfill their wills and
respect their friends and relatives whose
relationship with them may relate to their parts one sided. These, the
kindnesses which do last to be done with parents
even after death.
The prayer for their salvation after their death is considered on the parts of
offspring as one of the acts of
kind behavior with them. (Rawaho Ibnun najjar An Abi Assayid Malik bin Zararah)
A forsaking (giving up) of the prayers for parents results in the cut off of a
Donate Niffals on behalf of your parents. Whenever you do so, they get the
Sawab (Reward from Allah ta'la) of
them and in turn nothing in your own Sawab will be decreased.
[Daylami, Masnad ul Firdos)
Once a Sahabi (Staunch followers of the Prophet) urged in the kind service of
the Prophet (Sallallaho Alaihe
"0 ...! Mohammad (Sallallaho Alaihe Wasallam) may peace be upon you! I was
behaving very modestly
with my father when he was alive. Now he is no more. What is the way to treat
him modestly now?" He advised
"The noblest way to behave gently with him is to recite salats for him, to
do fasting for him along with your
salats and fasting. [Rawaho dare Kunni)
It is the moral that if you recite Niffals or do fasting with a view to earning
Sawab (Reward from Allah ta'la),
do them to offer the Sawab to your parents since the proportion of your own
Sawab will never be deducted by
Allah ta'la. (Tatar Khaniyahh, Muheet, Raddul Muhtar)
He will get up with righteous persons on the day of Qayamat (The judgment Day)
who goes to Hajjj on behalf
of his parents and settle out their debts. [Rawaho Tibrani Fil Awsat Waddare
kunmi Fissunan An
Amirul Momineen Hazrat Umar Radiallaho Ta'la Anho was under the debt of eighty
thousand Dirhams. At
the time of his final breathings, he talked to his son and informed him to
settle out his debt by selling away his own
property and further informed him that it was all right if the debt is settled
down that way, otherwise ask for the help
from the community of Bani Adi and yet it remains unsettled, then go to Quresh.
He also advised him not to
expect it from others
except them. Then he assigned his son Abdullah to be the witness of his debt
and he (Abdullah)
bailed it also. After the death of Hazrat Umar, the heads of Ansar and
MuHajjirin stood as the witness of that debt of
eighty thousand Dirhams before his burial took place and hardly a week ended
his debt was paid up by Hazrat
Abdullah. [Rawaho Ibne sa'ad Fitta bakat and Usman Bin Urwah]
Once a gentle lady belonging to the family Jahina visited the holy court of the
Prophet (Sallallaho Alaihe
Wasallam) and urged that:
Prophet ! My mother had a vow to go to Hajj which she could not fulfill and died.
Can I go to Hajj on behalf
of her?" He ordered; "Yes, recite Hajj on her behalf." And
desired to know that whether she had not settled out her
(mother's) debt if she had been running in. The same way, Hajj is a divine debt
which keeps much more importance in
its settlement (performance).
When any person goes to Hajj on behalf of his parents, that Hajj is sanctioned
on behalf of that person and
parents too and the souls of deceased get pleased in the sky. In addition to
it, he is identified as a person bearing kind
behavior with parents in the vicinity of Allah ta'la.
Anybody going to Hajj on behalf of father or mother gets that Hajj sanctioned
to his credit too.
he earns the reward from Allah ta'la ten times more than a single Hajj.
Any body who goes to Hajj on behalf of his parents, Allah ta'la, the most
graceful offers him the rescue from
hell and promises him the holy reward of a complete Hajj and no room for any
deduction in reward is there.
Those who prove oaths of their parents as true after their deaths and settle
out their debts as well as do not let
speak evil to their own parents by speaking evil to the parents of others are
regarded as the kind treaters with
parents. No matter they may be disobedient of their parents through out their
lives. And those who do not cling to their
parents' oaths and do not care to settle out their debts as well as let others
speak evil to their own parents by
speaking evil to the
parents of others are amongst those who are declared as the disobedient of
parents. Here, it
is of no use at all that they were behaving in the noblest way with their
parents during their lives.
A person who visits the grave of his father or mother (or either of them) on
every Friday will be forgiven
his sins and he will be credited from those having behaved kindly with their
parents. [Nawa Darul Usal]
Anybody who used to visit the graves of his parents or the grave of anyone of
them every Friday and recite
there Yasin sharif near their graves is promised a rescue from sins. In
addition to it, Allah ta'la will bestow relief-
Magferat upon him for as many times as the holy words of Yasin sharif.
In order to earn reward from Allah ta'la, when a person visits the graves of
his parents or visits the grave of
either of them will be offered the reward from Allah ta'la equal to
Hajjj-E-Maqbul (i.e. Hajj sanctioned by Allah
ta'la) and who used to visit their graves many times the holy angels will visit
or come to his own grave frequently
for the holy look. [Tirmizi, Hakim Ibne Adi]
In a holy Kitab (Book) Uyoonul Hikayat, with support from his own testimony,
Imam Ibne Juzi indicates
in a Rivayat through Mohammed Ibnul Abbas that:
A man started traveling with his son and in the mid of the way, he died. It was
a jungle of "Gogal" trees. He
was burned under those trees by his son who then traveled ahead for his
destination. During his return journey, he
reached to that place at night, but did not care to go to his father's grave.
Suddenly he heard the stanza that:
"1 saw you passing through that forest at night time and (you) did not
hold the opinion that it was necessary to
talk to him though he had been residing there amongst those trees. If you had
been there in his place, he would had
surely come back from his way to offer you his Salam near your grave."
Who intends to behave kindly with his father after his death should behave
kindly with his father`s friends and
[Abu Ya'ali Ibne Habban]
It is in the kindness of father's part to behave modestly with his friends.
HADITH: 19, 20.
No doubt, the kindness superior to the kindness of a father is to deal with his
friends humbly after his death.
[Bukhari, Muslim, Abu Dawood, Tirmizi]
And carry on friendship with them and do not end it so that Allah ta'la may not
extinguish down your "Noor"
[Bukhari, Tibrani, Bayhaki)
The executions (Aamals-good or bad acts) of all human beings are presented
before the holy court of Allah
ta'la the Almighty, on every Monday and Thursday; and on every Friday before
the Prophet (Sallallaho Alaihe
Wasallam) and parents. They (father/mother) are getting pleased with virtues
(good acts), their faces become much
more neat and start shinning while they feel good deal of pains noticing vices
(bad acts). So, have fear of Allah ta'la
and do not sadden your parents by sinful acts.
It is cited in a Hadith that:
Once the Sahabi (Intimate follower of the Prophet) urged in the holy court of
the Prophet (Sallallaho Alaihe
"0...! Prophet ...! I have carried my mother riding on my neck upto the
distance of six miles on a path covered
with such hot stones that could turn a piece of meat into kabab (i.e. The
stones of the path were too hot.)
Now, tell me whether I am relieved from her rights, or not." Huzur
Mohammed (Sallallaho Alaihe Wasallam)
replied; "It might be a reward of the pains of just one jerk out of those
she endured at the moments of your birth."
Allah may ward us off from the disobedience of parents and enable us to carry
out their all rights with our
RIDDLE NO.: 4
What are the orders of Ulema-e-Din (Islamic scholars or learned personalities)
in this puzzle (Mas-ala)
that: "A person, somewhat qualified is quarrelling, beating and harrasing
his parents. He also abuses them and lets
others do so and speaks evil to them. This person is also a liar and usurps
others' properties. Is it "JAEZ" (Allowed in
Shariet) or "Makruh" (Not preferable near the holy existence of Allah
ta'la) to recite salat under the Imamat of
this person? Is it necessary or not to repeat salat if anyone recites behind
him in ignorance? And is it fair (or not) to be
hostile, to be malicious or to make others spiteful to him, to give Sadqa to
him etc.? And how is it to have dinner with
him at his palace? And what type of punishment does the holy Shariet impose
upon this person and finally what is the
order in Shariet for those who favor him?"
(Clarify by the help of holy Quran and precious
statements of honorable Imams).
This person is a fasikul fasikin, Abbase Mahin and he is liable to suffer an
horrible anger of Allah ta'la and
vigorous sufferings of hell. The Prophet (Sallallaho Alaihe Wasallam)
questioned, "Should I not make you aware that
what is the biggest "Kabira" sin? Should I not point you out what is
the worst sin in all `Kabira" sins?"- Then Sahabas
requested Inform us". He sermonizes,"To declare someone as the
partner of Allah ta'la and to harrass parents, both are
the worst sins out of
all "Kabira" sins. The Prophet Mohammed (Sallallaho Alaihe Wasallam)
that: "He is a "mal-un" (wicked) who harrasses his
parents." He repeated the similar statement for thrice.
And ordered:" Hatred/curse of Allah ta'la is upon them who abuse their
HADITH: Awwam Bin Khushab(who was a great Tabei Imam died in Hijri 148)
He visited a street which was on the bank of a graveyard. At the time of
Asar(evening), one of the grave
cracked and a man came out of it with a mouth of donkey and the rest part of
his body was like human being, who
barked thrice like a donkey and soon his grave closed down. An old woman had
been knitting there. A woman
told me that did you see that old woman. So, I asked her,"What is the
matter with her?" She replied;" She is mother
of the man of this grave who was addicted to liquor and when he was used to
return to home in the evening
he was advised by his mother that how long he would continue to drink it and
also advised frequently to fear
Allah ta'la. Therefore, at that time he used to reply that she had been barking
like a donkey. He died after the time of
Asar. Since then everyday his grave is being cracked at the time of Asar and
after barking thrice like a donkey in the
same way, he enters his grave again and his grave gets closed down.
Exactly in the same way, to usurp someone's property, to lie and to steal are
all "Haram" acts in Islam
and to attend salat behind him is a great "Makruh." The holy Shariet
declares that an appointment of a "Fasique"
person as your Imam is Makruh e-Taherimi and the meaning of Makruh-e- Taherimi
is much Close to Haram
act and the repeatation of salat is wajib (necessary). In Gunniyah, it is
"Whoever appoints "Fasique" as Imam will be an offender whereas
such act is "Makruh-e-Taherimi."
An insultation of a "Fasique" person is wajib as shown by the holy
Shariet. Neither invite him for a dinner
nor go to his palace for a dinner with him. There is a Rivayat cited by
Abdullah Bin Masud in "Sunane Abi
Dawood" and "Jame-a-Tirmizi" that the Prophet Mohammed
(Sallallaho Alaihe Wasallam) had been saying
When Bani Israel absorbed in sins and did not obey his Alims/religious tutors
who tried to prevent. And those
Alims who set in their company, ate with them. Allah ta'la affected
(influenced) the hearts of those Alims with the
wicked effects of those criminals. Hence, they also became like them and later
on Allah ta'la cursed all of them by the
tounges of Hazrat Isa Bin Mariyam and Hazrat Dawood which was the outcome of
their sins and a reward of
surpassing the limits.
That person is liable to vigorous sentencement which depends upon the will of
religious judge. This judge
will order to cut off his hands from the wrists if the theft is proved with the
support of proper witnesses or evidence
recommended by the
Islamic tradition. It is the order of Almighty Allah ta'la that: "Do not
share mutually in sins
and tyrannies. "Just learnt through the Hadith that those who were Alims
yet suffered a curse owing to their
dealings with those persons who were criminals. Now, just think a little that
what would be the situation of those who
admire them. Allah may protect us and bestow the right Islamic thinking to all
Muslims.(Aameen). No objection is
there in offering Sadqa to those who are helpless, needy, naked and hungry when
there is no intention to help them
in their sins. The prophet sermonized that:
"There is a sawab/divine reward in helping the hot hearts, i.e. living
creature either human beings or animals
when you notice any
of them worth helping. At such time do it as there is reward from Allah ta'la
in it. In Sahi
Hadith, it is indicated that you earn sawab/reward from Allah ta'la when you
give water to dog also."
Dear Muslim brothers, you might have known nicely all the rights of parents
after reading this much about
the same subject. Even though we would extend it with a view to increasing the
knowledge of our readers. To serve
that purpose, we like to narrate here some holy verses of the Quran, Hadith of
the Prophet Mohammed (Sallallaho
Alaihe Wasallam) and few instances of our great honorable spiritual heads and
elders of the Islam and hope you will
surely execute · them in actual life after reading them all.
It is illuminated by the holy Quran that:
"Do not pray to anyone else except Allah ta'la and be gentle to your
parents and during your life if
they (or anyone of them) reach to their old age, you should not utter a rude
word in front of them,
do not scold them but
talk to them with great deal of decorum and respect and pray for them in this
"0...! My Master ...! shower Thy mercy upon them since they brought me up
carefully in my childhood."
(Para:1S, Ruku: 2)
In the holy Quran-Majid, Allah ta'la the Omnimaster orders that: Thank me and
be (remain) obliged of your parents."
At another place, He orders that: "Ani - sh - kurli waledaiyaka."
Meaning: "Thank me and be obliged of your parents." He also
orders that: Meaning: "Be kind to your
(Sura-e-Baqrah, Ruku: 10, Aayat: 10)
There is a statement of Hazrat Abdullah Bin Masud (Radiallaho ta'la Anho) that:
Once he asked Nabi (Sallallaho Alaihe Wasallam) that which righteous execution
(good act) is most liked by
Allah ta'la. He replied that is the execution of Salat at its scheduled time.
Again I made a question to know another
most liked or favorite execution near the holy existence of Allah ta'la, The
Great. In reply, Nabi (Sallallaho Alaihe
Wasallam) advised; "Doing kindness with parents."
(Bukhari Part: 2, Page: 882, Muslim)
There is a known Rivayat of Hazrat Ibne-Abbas (Radiallaho ta'la Anho) that once
the most beloved Prophet
Mohammed (Sallallaho Alaihe Wasallam) stated that:
"Allah ta'la, The most merciful offers the sawab (divine reward) of a Hajj
to the part of a kind son for each
sight who looks a his parents with affection." Then some people asked even
if he looks at them similar way hundreds
of times a day. Huzur (Sallallaho Alaihe Wasallam) replied
"Yes, He (Allah ta'la) is the greatest and purest of all." [Misqat]
Hazrat Ayisha Siddiqa (Radi Allahota'la Anha) states that:
Once the great Prophet Mohammed (Sallallaho Alaihe Wasallam) said that:
"I entered the paradise and heard someone's voice reciting sweetly the
holy Quran. I inquired about it and
came to know by holy innocent angels that Hans Bin Suleman was there who was
kind to his mother."
(Misqat Sharif, Page No. 129)
Hazrat Abdullah Bin Umar describes in a Rivayat that:
"Once a person attended the holy court of the rophet (Sallallaho
Alaihe-Wasallam) and urged him that
he had been there for his Baiyat (The holy Islamic tradition to come under
one's religious guidance and obedience)
leaving his pare lamenting at his exodus (emigration). Hearing it, The Prophet
commanded him to turn back to
them quickly and admonished him to please them whom he had left weeping."
(Abu Dawood, Page No. 251)
In a rivayat a person emigrating from Yaman reached to the holy service of the
(Sallallaho Alaihe Wasallam.) The Prophet (Sallallaho Alaihe Wasallam) asked
him whether he had anybody his
own at Yaman. That person replied that he had his parents there at Yaman. Then
Nabi (Sallallaho Alaihe Wasallam)
again questioned him whether he had been permitted by them for emigration. He
said; "No, Immediately he directed
him to go back to them and to have their consent first for the exodus!
emigration to participate into the crusade, if
they permit him or otherwise help serve them. (Abu Dawood, Page No. 253)
It is revealed in a Hadith by the Prophet that:
"Two gates of the paradise are opened for the person who passes his night
till dawn in the meanwhile
whose parents are pleased with him and if he pleases either of them, then one
gate will be opened from paradise to him.
If he passes his night upto dawn in the meanwhile leaving his parents
displeased with him, then two gates of the hell
will be opened to him and if one of them is displeased, then one gate of the
horrible hell will be opened to him. This
order is applicable in all conditions. The purpose is that if one's parents are
just and obliging to him or they may be
unjust and tyrannical to him also.
It is stated in Hadith that defaming! scorning the parents is one of the Kabira
Hazrat Anas (Radiallaho Anho) narrates that Nabi (Sallallaho Alaihe Wasallam)
often admonished a man
desirous of abadunce in earning and age, should be element to his relatives and
behave modestly with his parents.
Hazrat Abdullah Bin Umar (Radiallaho ta'la Anho) through Hadith indicates that
once a man solicited before
the holy court of the Prophet Mohammed (Sallallaho Alaihe Wasallam) that:
"0 ...! Prophet...! (may peace be upon you)...! I have committed a great
sin . Can my expiation. be granted ...?"
The Prophet Mohammed (Sallallaho Alaihe Wasallam) asked him whether his mother
was alive. He replied; "Yes."
Then he was advised by the Prophet to behave kindly with her. (Tirmizi)
The moral is that the noble behavior with parents and relatives serves as the
"Kaffara" (compensation) of
Once a man urged;"O...! Prophet...! I am reciting Salat, fasting during
Ramazan and distributing Zakat. What
would be my reward ?" Nabi (Sallallaho Alaihe Wasallam) replied; "You
will be in the holy company of the Prophets,
Siddiqs and martyers provided that you should not be disobedient of your
parents. (Ahmed, Tibrani)
The happy words by the holy tongue of the most beloved Prophet (Sallallaho
Alaihe Wasallam) are as:
The fragrance of the paradise reaches (extends) upto the distance of five
hundred years. But the disobedient of
the parents is so unlucky that he will be deprived of this paradisiacal
Hazrat Moosa (Alaihissalam) scribes that before the court of Allah ta'la, the
Almighty, I prayed that:
"0...! My Lord ...! Admonish me." Then Allah ta'la admonished me for
the righteous acts and kindness with
mother. Again I requested; "0...! My Lord ..! Admonish me something."
Allah ta'la, The most merciful again
recommended me to be kind to parents. Thus totally for nine times, He (The
Great Allah ta'la) put forward His
ardent will to do kindness with parents and commended that:
` "0 Moosa a person who does kindness to his parents, I'm his guardian in
the world, companion in the grave and on
the day of Qayamat (the final day). I'm very merciful to him, on the Pulshirat
I'm his guide and in paradise he will
talk to me without any intercession and without any curtain or hindrance and I
will talk to him. From Hazrat Abu
Hurairah, there is a rivayat as under:
It is ordered by the Prophet Mohammed (Sallallaho Alaihe Wasallam) that:
"His nose may lick the dust. (i.e. He may be infamed/ disreputed)."
He repeated this thrice. Therefore,
someone urged; "Oh...! Prophet ..! Whose nose..?" He replied;
"The Muslim who does not enter the
paradise even though he gains mother or father or both of them. Such Muslim for
the cause of not serving the parents
could not enter the paradise." (Misqat)
Hazrat Salim Bin Aiyub who is a religious scholar from the believers of Imam
Shafai (Radiallaho Anho) states
that he was unable to recite even the Sura -e- Fatiha till he was of 10 years.
So some religious heads advised hid to
make request about it to his mother and ask her to pray for! him to Allah ta'la
to enable him to recite Quran and enrich
him with religious
knowledge. My mother prayed for me on my request. It is written by Ibne Subki
that later on
Salim Bin Aiyub became such a brilliant Islamic scholar and tutor that none
could militate (meet in contest) with
Now, contemplate upon
the statement of Hazrat
Abu Tufail (Radiallaho ta'la Anho) that:
"1 saw Mohammed (Sallallaho Alaihe Wasallam) distributing the meat. In the
meantime, a woman came and
reached quite close
to him and he - Mohammed (Sallallaho Alaihe Wasallam) also stretched his holy
bed sheet as soon
as he saw her and that woman set on it. So, I inquired who she was and from the
people I came to know that she was
the foster mother of the Prophet Mohammed (Sallallaho Alaihe Wasallam) who
dedicated her milk to him.
(Abu Dawood, Misqat)
One religious elder writes the following incident that:
I noticed a
person doing Tawaaf of Kaaba at Makkah causing her mother sit on his back. That
"elder asked him that who she was. He replied, Elder, she is my mother
whom I have been
carrying this way since seven years. Now, please tell me whether I carried out
the rights of my
mother thoroughly or not."
That elder started saying that:
"Dear friend, do you ask about the rights of a mother. You would be
deeming that you had fulfilled it so
far. But it is utterly far wrong conjecture. If Allah ta'la bestows you a life
of thousands of years and you continue
to move with her in this mode, even though you can't compensate fully just her
awakening of one night for you.
Hearing it that person started shedding tears profusely.
Dear Readers...! This is such a subject which cannot be completed even after
books over books may be written
upon it. Our great spiritual elders attained the highest dignities by serving
and obeying their parents at each and
every breath of their lives. So, come, today, we resolve firmly by heart to
carry out the rights of the parents
following truly the great Shariet-e-Mustafa Mohammad
(Sallallaho Alaihe Wasallam). May crores of Daruds and
Salams be upon him.
(Aameen...) Rights of Parents
The rights of children
What is the order of Islam about a father who fails in carrying out some rights
which are entitled to his
What is the order of
great Shariet there for this riddle..?
(1) Even prior to the arrival of offspring it is their right that one does not
marry among irreligious and dishonorable
people because morality or immorality is handed down through socialization.
(2) The father should marry in the circle of religious and righteous people so
that the good executions and noble
habits of the maternal uncle and maternal grand father may impress the conduct
of a child.
(3) He should begin the sexual intercourse after reciting Bismillah otherwise
the sordid Satan mingles with the
(4) And at that time, he should not look at the female organ as there is a
danger for the child to be blind.
(5) And also, at that time, he should not talk too much as there is a fear for
the child to be dumb and stammering.
(6) At that time, don't be naked like animals but husband and wife should cover
up their bodies with bed
sheet so that the child may not be shameless.
(7) Every effort
should be made to bring them up on the principles of piety and good
(8) As soon as the child is born, the Azan in the right ear and the Takbir in
the left ear should be recited which
defend the child against the Satanic interference and UMMUSIBBIYAN.
(9) The dry date or any other chewed sweet thing should be given in the mouth
of a child as it is an origin of
(10) Do `AKIKAH', either on 7th day or 14th day or on 21st day and for that one
goat for a daughter and Two goats
for a son to be cut as it is like setting the child free from mortgage.
(11) And the meat of the knee part of the animal for Sadqa (any of the either
sex of goat) should be offered to
the midwife as it is an expression of thanks from the child.
(12) Get the hair of the head of a child be shaven or cleared off
(13) And donate out silver weighing equally to the weight of those hair.
(14) Apply saffron on the head of the child.
(15) Give name to the child. Also name even to the incomplete child, due to
miscarriage otherwise the child
would complain before Allah ta'la.
(16) Do not give him/her evil name since it is evil thing.
(17) Give name (from the names) such as Abdullah, Abdurrahman, Ahmed, Hamid or
name your child from the
names of holy Ambiyas and Aulias (The great Islamic Saints) since they are the
cause of advantages. Specially the
immeasurably in both the worlds.
(18) When the name "Mohammad" is given, it must be respected and
(19) Reserve room for him in the gathering.
(20) Be very careful in beating and speaking harsh to the child.
(21) Anything demanded which is fair should be furnished to the child.
(22) Do not give awkward nick name in fondling since it is very difficult to
abstain or forget the nickname once it
has become known.
(23) Give the milk of a mother to the child or the milk of a righteous foster
mother who recites Salat and is from
the well born family.
(24) Save the child from abject or vicious woman since it changes the nature of
(25) The "NAFQA" of a child is "Wajib" [i.e. To furnish all
stuffs of the child's necessity are also Wajeeb in
which "Hazanat" is also included (Hazanat is meant to ring up the
child by giving him/her the milk of foster mother).]
(26) Whatever is saved after meeting your own wants, donate from that amongst
have nots and relatives. But here,
your children are most rightful for that first of all.
(27) Nourish the child with legal and pious earnings since an impious earnings
is the root of all evils and bad
(28) Do not eat anything leaving your children aside. But always submit to
their desires and give priority to their
desires over your own.
(29) The children are the matchless gift of Allah ta'la. Be kind to them, love
them, laugh with them and play with
them to please their innocent hearts.
(30) Delight their hearts. Be generous to them and proper care should be taken
for them upto the extent that
they must be cared by you even during Salats and "Khutaba".
(31) New and fresh sweets should be served to them first as they are also fresh
fruits and naturally the new
deserves the new and fresh.
(32) According to your reach, give them sweets, garments and toys to play with,
which are allowed by the
(33) If you are a father of many children, then you should give the same things
to all and none should be
enjoying priority. Except religious superiority, none should be given any
special importance over others.
(34) Do not promise falsely. But promise them only if you can fulfill it.
(35) Try to bring some gifts at your return journey at home.
(36) Give proper treatment in their sickness.
(37) Try best to save them from severe and painful
(38) As soon as the child opens his tongue, teach him Allah then Lailaha
Illallah and complete Kalemasharif.
(39) When the child becomes sensible, teach him respect in eating, talking,
speaking and moving etc. Teach
him to preserve the decorum of the parents and elders.
(40) Make your daughter well aware of the respect and obedience of her husband.
Teach her to recite Quran sharif.
(41) Manage the righteous and noble teacher from the group of right believers
to teach and train your offspring.
Hand over your daughter to serve the same purpose to deserving, competent and
righteous lady teacher.
(42) Always insist and persuade them for Tilawat after the completion of Quran
(43) Teach them all Sunnats and the orders of most needful Shariet.
(44) Fill up their hearts with the I truest love and respect for the most
beloved Nabi (Sallallaho Alaihe Wasallam)
since this is the most essential factor for the right and firm Iman (Faith).
(45) Make them known completely about the truest affection and decorum to the
offspring of the most kind
Nabi (Sallallaho Alaihe Wasallam), other Aulias and Ulemas because that is the
root of Iman! Faith, ornament of
Sunnats and great cause to save the Iman.
(46) Order and insist your child to recite Salat since he/she enters the
seventh year of childhood.
(47) Teach and provide him/her proper religious knowledge specially about Wuzu,
Salat, Fasting, Bath and
other Islamic performances and orders like praying to Allah ta'la, patience in
pains, good and modest use of the tongue,
dangers of the worldly temptations, harms of precedence, falsehood, tortures,
shameissness, arrogance, malicious
deeds like backbiting, abusing hostility and also teach them about all evils to
be abstained through out life.
(48) Show modesty in his education and do scold whenever needed. Never beat on
face. Do not use stick in
beating but try to serve the purpose mostly with the help of threats only.
(49) During their school days, let them spare sometime to play so that they may
remain fresh, healthy and
delighted. But be watchful that they should never be allowed to move and sit
with bad companions since `A man
is known by the company he keeps . Never let them read evil and naked
literature. How the children would be
allowed to read the dirty novels and magazines when they are not allowed to
teach the meaning and detailed
description about the artifices and betrayals of females in Sura-e- Yusuf.
(50) Beat your children if they do not recite salat after they are ten years
old and after that age they should be
given separate bed to sleep. Do not let them sleep with you at that age.
(51) When they become youth they must get wedded by you keeping in view all
orders of Sunnats and Shariet.
When there is a possibility of their disobedience in that situation, do not
command but try to convince them humbly
so that they may be saved from the ill thing of disobedience.
(52) They must not be deprived of their rights from the property. Some people
transfer their property to the name
of some other with the intention to keep his own heir aloof from that right.
This is indeed wrong thing.
(53) Keeping in a view the interests of your children, spare two third part of
your wealth or property and do not
waste more than the third part of it. The above fifty three rights are common
to son or
daughter. But some specific rights for the son are as under.
(54) Teach him writing, swimming and the art of war, do "Khatna"
publicy etc. Teach them Sura-e Ma-e-dah.
(55) Do not show disgust at the birth of daughter. This is strictly forbidden
by shariat. But be delighted at her birth
and consider her as the noble gift from the Almighty Allah ta'la. Teach her
cooking, sewing etc.
(56) Also teach Sura-e-Noor. Love your daughter more and more as their hearts
are more tender, share equally to both, a son and
a daughter: Give your
daughter first anything and later on to your son
(57) Do not let her sleep with you or with her brother when she is nine years
old. Take her special care from this
(58) Do not allow her to participate in dancing or such functions even if they
are being done at her brother's place
because singing and dancing are the great sins and the tender glass can hardly
resist the nominal stumble.
(59) And do not allow them (daughters) to visit others' home. Not withstanding
keep watchful eye on them even in
your homes also. And stop them from standing in the balcony and terrace.
(60) Give them beautiful garments and ornaments to wear on so that they may get
engaged merrily. Do not
waste time when they are engaged. If possible, get them wedded when they are of
twelve years of age. But be very
watchful! They never should be wedded with Fasique, Fajir or any other person
of other religions.
All the above sixty rights came to note from Hadith-e-Mustafa in which many are
Mustahab. If they are over
looked they will stand as the sound cause of your strong grip before Allah
ta'la on the final day, which is
unavoidable. Let us all pray to Allah ta'la, only who deserves to all prayers
and praise may keep us and our
children away from the indecency and disobedience of the parents and He may
confer the true vigilance to parents
about the rights of their children.
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